How to write wedding vows
The matrimonial vows declared by the couple during the ceremony are the promises or affirmations of the couple for their future. But how to write wedding vows? Nine golden tips to inspire you and put your love into words.
If you're about to walk down the aisle but haven't written your vows yet, these tips are for you!
1) Start writing your wedding vows in advance
Don't leave writing your wedding vows until the last minute. The pressure of limited time will not help at all, and you need a break for the right words to come. The first tip is to start writing in advance. How much time? It depends on the person. You need to feel free to take the necessary time to write the vows from the bride to the groom, and from the groom to the bride. If inspiration comes slowly, start writing three weeks to a month before the wedding day. But if you're the type of person who prefers to write it all at once when inspiration strikes, three weeks may be enough. The important thing is to give yourselves enough time to not feel rushed and end up writing them in a hurry.
2) Tell the story of your relationship
When words escape you, don't force yourself to write things that don't feel meaningful. One idea that can open the door to inspiration is to recall your entire love story. Think about when you met, when you realized there was "something more." Trace the journey of your love, trying to recount the most unforgettable moments from each phase, in chronological order. You know all the details, from your first kiss to the moment of the proposal, and it will surely be beautiful to share the emotions of those days with your guests. Try to briefly describe these moments in your wedding vows.
3) The reasons you fell in love
Ideas for your wedding vows are not far from you: how about looking at your own relationship story? Write down the most striking characteristics that made you fall in love and that keep you in love every day. Everything that makes your partner... the perfect match for you! And it doesn’t just mean talking about qualities. You can also mention those little flaws that, despite everything, deserve to be remembered, as they are part of the personality of the person who won your heart. In fact, it's the "little flaws" that often win you over! But be delicate when writing. Show that you love every part of the person you're saying "yes, I do" to—that’s love.
4. Don't worry about the length
There is no rule or protocol about the length of wedding vows. A beautiful and romantic text can be short or long. The key is to write what’s necessary to express your feelings sincerely, without worrying about the length of the text! Sometimes a small sentence has more impact than a long one. Focus on what you're feeling at the moment you write, and let love take over the words.
5. Use other inspiring texts
Draw inspiration from great writers, songwriters, poets, or even wedding vows from movies to help organize your feelings on paper. Sometimes the lyrics of a song or a poem seem to have been written specifically to describe your relationship, and it will surely bring a lot of inspiration. You can turn to the great masters of literature and other artists for help with your wedding vows. But remember: no copying, just inspiration!
6. Commit to the future
Reflect on the future you dream of together and say aloud everything you wish for your life as a couple. These desires can and should be part of your wedding vows. Declare the commitment you want to make for this new life after marriage. This is a way to show that you are committed to your own feelings and to the feelings of your loved one. The love promises from your dating days can now be recalled and reaffirmed.
7. Preserve your intimacy
While you may want to express all the affection and passion you have transparently, it’s also important to remember that, in these vows, your intimate life can be preserved with some discretion. Remember that you will be reading these words in front of all your guests, including family members. It’s important to know the boundaries of what to say about your partner in front of so many people, even if they are part of your circle.
8. Don't be afraid to be intense
Reserved, yes, but never ashamed to show the love you feel! Believe me: the moment of wedding vows is a magical one, and as such, it deserves an emotional love declaration. Don’t be shy about writing with feeling and emotion, allowing your heart to guide you. Show how happy you are to build a family and a fulfilling life with this person. Don’t censor your own romance!
9. Questions to help write your wedding vows
And to wrap things up, on those days when inspiration is lacking, an easy way to start writing your wedding vows is to ask yourself these questions and write down your answers.
And to wrap things up, on those days when inspiration is lacking, an easy way to start writing your wedding vows is to ask yourself these questions and write down your answers.
Why do I consider him/her the love of my life?
Why do I strive to be better by his/her side?
What can I promise forever in our relationship?
When he/she is sad, what can I do?
What are the moments when he/she made me laugh or still makes me laugh?
How did he/she make me feel when I first met him/her?
When did I know I couldn’t live without him/her?
Why do we get along so well?